Snobbery

Snobbery (بدگمانی) means having bad concept about others, a person who does not believe in anyone, a skeptical person, a bad person, a bad idea and a superstitious person.

Snobbery refers to having a negative opinion or outlook on someone, which in turn affects the bond of brotherhood.

While conjecture refers to guessing an individual or something and forming a preliminary opinion. This conjecture is caused by the idea that it is caused by a visible sign. There are two types of assumptions. A good idea called حسن ظن  the second is a bad idea called سوئے ظن. The second is a bad idea.

Do not strengthen your thoughts to come to any conclusion about anyone, unless the Person of Interest (مظنون) to whom Snobbery is developed in your heart, be well thought out.

If the Person of Interest (مظنون) is good and righteous, then he should not be mistreated because of the slightest illusion. Sometimes we see a person doing something and immediately form an opinion about it, while this is not what we think it is or if we cut our relations based upon someone’s sudden Malevolent behavior, this is called Snobbery. Because we always look in the mirror, we like our face but flaws remain hidden from our eyes. If you have a clean heart, then consider your behavior before being irrespective to the Person of Interest.  And if you do not understand the Person then ask for clarification.  He may be on the right side and you may be victim of mistrust.

Once I was invited to an invitation with Arab friends. The famous dish “Mandi” was there. Contains large amount of rice, nuts and meat, separately tomato sauce, sliced ​​onion and fruits. As soon as I took the meat and wanted it in my mouth, it was too hot. I immediately pull it out and place it back. I thought that I would eat the meat a little later when the meat will be cool. But an Arab friend (Sameer), sitting nearby, picked up the piece of meat and placed it on the trash and said brother do not put the used food on the serving meal.

Seeing the incident, Sameer thought that I did not like the piece of meat, so I put it back. When the meat was warm, thus kept it, which Sameer did not realize. That is why it is said that one should not despise the appearance of humanity, simplicity, calmness and silence, as that person may be like a Jewel.

The best solution for avoiding Snobbery and overconfidence is to not waste your energy on someone else's attitude. As soon as your knowledge of the idea is complete, your assumption or misconduct will end and it will be replaced by the reality.

It is goodness of human to think positively so that your social life, personal affairs, business and personality are widely accepted. Always positive thinking removes the root of despair, disappointment, failure and lack of emotion. 

Not only this, the life of a positive thinker covers positive factors such as hope, avalanche, force action, beauty, constant growth and right-angle thinking. They carry him out of darkness into the light, and he has no regrets.

Nothing should proceed without research. If any news is unusual, the matter should be investigated before any immediate response. Incomplete things cause misunderstandings. One manifestation of negative thinking is misunderstanding, and that is the cause of all conflicts nowadays. Positive thinking requires wide-ranging work rather than creating an unpleasant atmosphere. And valuable relationships should not be sacrificed simply by giving incomplete statements and without the opportunity to clean up.

Just as the evil or bad deeds of others come into the heart, in the same way, thoughts come from the heart. As a result, our attitudes change. An idea or thought creates anger in the heart, hates someone, becomes unconscious and unbalanced love for others and increases the distance. All of these things cause an error. The best way to express good behaviors is to have a clean heart. Without which we cannot do good to anyone.

Reasons for Snobbery:

Incomplete and little knowledge, negative thinking, misunderstanding, hatred or complaint of a particular person, bitter experience of the past, feeling of insecurity, superstitions, whispering of human or criminal devil.

Risks of Snobbery:

Psychological illnesses, mutual hatreds, grievances, rivalries, community chaos, conflict, murder, extortion, family, tribal, linguistic and institutional rivalries.

The best solution for Snobbery is to:-

If the problem is important and serious, eliminate the guesswork by adding information.

Avoid thinking too much negatively about others and forming impassioned opinions.

Control your negative thoughts and overcome any unpleasant thoughts.

If preconception is inflicted against any one, then fight infidelity to the very end.

Start giving up your right to the people.

Learn to forgive people for their mistakes because if the mistake is yours then how about it?

This is not a day job, but a continuous one. So keep trying in case of failure.

We must avoid misunderstandings, misrepresentations and counter-facts (because misconduct is destructive). If the misbehavior is not overcome, then the person at a stage becomes unfaithful to himself. Therefore, make it a habit to research so as not to harm yourself or anyone in ignorance and to be safe from the flames of remorse.

Abdul Qayum Khan Ghouri - Lahore Pakistan